About Me

The Long.

The last few years of my 21-year marriage were hell—between the gaslighting and explosive rages behind closed doors, I had a growing fear I was going crazy. My physical health began to deteriorate, and I ended up in the ER with “loss of vision,” which was ultimately diagnosed as stress.

Thankfully, three close friends—each working in mental health—gently encouraged me to look into Cluster B personality traits and covert narcissism. At first, I thought I was completely alone. But as I became more active in support spaces, I realized my story wasn’t unique. In fact, I hear it echoed every single day.

I also experienced friends and family who didn’t understand the depth of the abuse or didn’t want to acknowledge it. It was easier for them to look away. I think it would’ve been easier to explain to friends and family that I was abducted by aliens and spit out at Area 51 than to explain the severe manipulation and emotional trauma I experienced at the hands of my “wonderful” husband.

When the divorce process started, I had no idea what I was doing. That’s when I learned the term post-separation abuse and discovered an entire community facing the same struggle. I read more than I did in college, soaked up every resource I could find, and slowly began to rebuild.

Don’t get me wrong—I consumed my share of divorce wine—but little by little, healing happened. I even came across another new concept: traumatic growth. Neato.

Through it all, I became a Certified High Conflict Divorce Coach to support myself and others who are going through the same experience. In my own divorce, I was able to secure 80% of what I asked for, including increased time with my children.

Since then, I’ve worked with hundreds of clients worldwide and am active both locally and online with individuals experiencing the loss of the life they once knew. I serve as the Head Moderator for the Covert Narcissist Group (CNG) and Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Facebook communities, founded by Renee Swanson, with over 80,000 members combined.

I offer private coaching, seasonal support groups, and in-person retreats for those navigating narcissistic relationships, high-conflict divorces, and even post-divorce difficult co-parenting situations. Not only do I assist clients in processing what they’ve endured—I help them save money in legal fees, secure better outcomes in custody and financial settlements, and find the clarity and strength to rebuild a life that finally feels safe.

I discovered my kids didn’t evaporate during the “season of divorce,” and I made lemonade out of the lemons I was left holding—now with a splash of gin and a sugar-rimmed glass.